You keep saying this, but wether people talk or wether they say things you like to hear is just not up to you. If you employ this attitude while talking to the TTB or our other agencies, you may not get the most helpful responses.
I notice in another thread Bill Owens has subtitles it " a better idea is a bed breakfast distillery". I remember in one of his books he shows a Bed and Breakfast where they had to install the still in a small extra building that looked like a gazebo or something. I also think they have farm distilleries around here that are not on separate plots. You would obviously need some type of non residential zoning, perhaps that was what the TTB was trying to say. If you have a farm you live at a business address, I suppose.