Information was given to me by a longtime trusted member of another forum. I'm afraid I'm I'll prepared to discuss seponafication, but would gather from my limited experience (described a post above yours) that the opposite is happening which i'm speculating is causing the hazing. I certainly cannot discuss at a chemical level, but it works for me.
This past weekend I had the time to do a side by side test. Same rum from a charred barrel, same distilled water, side by side same day. When I add the water to my rum it hazes within 10 minutes. When I add the rum to the water, zero hazing. I cant say I know much more than that.